We would all like our lives to be different in some area.
For some we’d like to change those we are intimate with – boyfriends or family members. For others it is as simple as no longer having to worry about money. Some women I know lack the confidence to be comfortable in their own environment. I do not mean their weight or physical being – I mean in their jobs and homes.
Not being okay with the people and circumstances we are having to deal with can cripple our ability to be happy at any moment. But EVERY MOMENT is any moment….that’s why we change our moments…cam you sense the sense in these words now? I know you can…you are always free to change your mind.
A safe place to begin is in our minds. Your mind is the place where anything can happen if you use your imagination. It is unfortunate, but most of us are convincing ourselves, “this is just the way it is” so much of the time we don’t have space in our brains to reconsider other possibilities.
Can yo do something utterly different? I mean, rather than going through today waiting for a moment to clear your head can you tell your mind to just focus on something more positive or, at a bare minimum, something you’ve always wanted?
Why not? Day dreaming can not only change your disposition in a difficult situation it can, if used rightly and not to harm or completely dismiss another person, make enough room in your mind for an idea or an opportunity to present itself that could not have made it into your thoughts beforehand.
I know a man who has whistled his whole life. If you cannot find him in a store or at a park you have to listen and you will hear his whistle. It is his healthy form of detachment and I have never heard him raise his voice at anyone – not one time. He has an even keel because he has a happy inner mind. Outer conditions come and go but his disposition toward himself and his life remains calm and positive.
I personally use mantras I have learned form Sikhs,Gospel songs I have heard on the radio, favorite quotes from Scripture and famous people who’s lives I admire. Left to my own thoughts I might crumble under the weight of negativity coming from my own circumstances…armed with a mental file of positive words, songs and phrases I am able to clear my head.
When everything was falling to pieces in the life of one single mother in our group she shared the story of how she kept trying and trying to fix everything – but things always somehow got worse.
I was sitting next to her, hanging on her every word. I, too, was in a place of broken realities. Here is what I remember of how she stopped it:
“Just leave the pieces. DON’T TOUCH THEM. You don’t know how to put your life back together. You might pick up something that you don’t need and then it starts all over again, falling apart. Just leave the pieces of your life on the floor and let God put it back together. You can’t handle it – but He can. Then wait – it will work out. You’ll know what to do, it will come to you.”
If you do not have “Faith” then how is it we use our imagination? What I mean is – if you believe the answers are in you, then it wouldn’t be a mess. Faith is knowing the answer CAN exist. Imagination is sticking with the problem until it does.
Negativity in the mind is like the broken pieces of what hasn’t been working in our lives. Willing to change our minds may very well mean letting the Higher Power of the Universe hear our request, our prayer, or whatever you can deal with calling it, and then trusting we will be led in the direction we need to go. But we have to be willing to let go of our idea of failure, loss or being stuck first, so that we can actually use methods to build new realities.
If how we’ve done it before brought us nothing but misery then we need to be willing to be taught, to figure out and hear new ways of thinking and of being.
Whistling your way to a higher level of joy may not be a workable idea for you (it doesn’t help me much) but something in your life can work. You can find your weapons of light against the darkness the tries to surround you.
“ask and you shall receive seek and you shall find, knock and it shall opened for you.” might not be what you wanted to hear, but in all actuality, don’t we have to first ask the question to know we need an answer?
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